‘Just be there for them’ is good advice, but it will not always help to make a person with dementia feel happy and calm.
They may get upset or angry, even when you are trying to help them.
If things don’t go to plan, remember that it is not your fault.
It can take a while to find things that you enjoy doing together and these things may change over time.
What is wrong one day might be right another day, so don’t be afraid to have a go.
Only do as much as you feel you can.
If you begin to feel upset or worried, step away or leave the room.
Try again when you are ready.
This information was updated in November 2019 and is due for review in November 2021. Please contact us if you would like a version with references.
